Monday, 2 October 2017

Advice I'm Trying To Follow As A New Mum

I've been a mum for almost 14 weeks now and I'm not gonna lie, it's been a tough ride so far. Don't get me wrong, I adore my baby and the joy I get having him smile at me every day when he wakes up, but nothing and nobody can prepare you for the intense changes it makes to your life and self. In just a few short months I feel like I've learnt so much about myself as a person and come a long way from the girl I used to be. I was lazy, selfish and naive. I didn't appreciate a lot of things or people in my life and I made a lot of mistakes. But I can honestly say that becoming a mother to Cassius has given me a whole new purpose and opened my eyes to the person I used to be and given me the courage and enthusiasm to be better every day; not only for him but for me. 

Something I have learnt along the way so far is that you should always try to take in the advice other parents give you. Not necessarily about the way you raise your child as every child and family is different - but more so about the little things that come along with being a parent. Here are some pieces of advice I've been given by various people in my life that I'm trying to follow and I think every new mum should try too ❤

  1. Be patient. Nothing lasts forever.
    Sometimes it can feel like your life is being sucked out of you when your baby is suffering from colic day in and day out or has trouble settling down to bed in the evening or a countless of other things babies go through and it can very quickly feel like the world is crashing down around you. Don't fret, it won't last forever. Just take a moment away from the situation and breathe. This is so important to stop yourself from going nuts.
  2. Take care of yourself.
    I can't say I always manage to do this one perfectly; there are some weeks when I don't get out of my sick stained pjs and won't wash my hair or put make up on unless I have too. Unfortunately, thus is motherhood. But I'm working on it. Just a little bit of TLC a day for mumma bear can go a long way. From taking a walk without your baby, to indulging in a bubble bath and reading a book, make sure to look after you.
  3. Don't be afraid to ask for or accept help.
    Being a super mum is bloody hard work. Caring for a tiny human whilst keeping a household running and having time to yourself is near on impossible sometimes. So if you have people in your life that are willing to help, let them. Even if occassionally you have to ask a family member to take your baby so you can have an afternoon free, do it. Don't feel guilty for needing time off, you're only human and you have needs too.
  4. Don't forget about your relationship.
    This is so incredibly important, especially at the beginning when both of your attention is on this little human you've created. Some days it's difficult even finding hours in the day to sit down with your partner and enjoy a cup of tea together but it's imperative to try. I have more love for my boyfriend now than I ever thought possible but we're definitely struggling to balance being doting parents and having date nights to ourselves. It's a work in progress but we're doing our best.
  5. Take some advice with a pinch of salt.
    Everybody has a different opinion on what is the 'correct' way to raise a child. From old wives tales to the scary world of mum twitter, it can be quite scary when you're told you aren't doing something right. My opinion? Your maternal instincts will know when something is wrong with your baby. As much as googling things and asking other mums online can help, sometimes their advice may not work on your baby. Every child is different so everything is trial and error. Don't worry if what the internet says the 'norm' is, isn't what you're doing. You're still rocking it, mumma!

    These are only some bits of advice I've been given as a new mum but I find them the most important. Motherhood isn't easy, if it was, it wouldn't be worth it. No matter what though, as long as you and your baby are happy and healthy, then you're doing an amazing job, never forget that! ⭐

Do you have any advice that has helped you and you want to share? Let me know, below!


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