Saturday, 28 April 2018

5 Pieces Of Advice For My Teenage Self


Your teenage years always feel like the most dramatic during the growing up process as it's when you really begin to learn things about yourself and decide who you wanna be and what you wanna do with your life. With that comes a lot of stress and responsibility that, at the time, seemed like it was the end of the world. Now that I'm nearing on 25 and I'm an entirely different person, it's interesting to look back at my younger self and laugh at all the times I genuinely thought my life was over because of something menial that happened.
So here are 5 pieces of advice for my teenage self that would have made life that little bit easier had I known that life goes on outside of school!

School is just a stepping stone in life and as important as making friends is during your teenage years, you don't need to go all out to impress absolutely everyone as chances are 80% of your school mates won't remember you or even care what you're doing 5 years down the line. So give yourself a break and stop doing ridiculous things to get people to like you, the people you're meant to be friends with won't need impressing.

I remember whenever I was involved in drama or someone spread a rumor about me or I skipped a class, I would have anxiety for days, maybe even weeks, until things calmed down. Looking back on it now, I realize they were silly little worries that shouldn't have taken up so much of my time when I should have been enjoying my time as a carefree teen - being an adult is much harder!


At school it's easy to get caught up in what people think about you, what reputation you have and the things that are said about you by people that do and do not know you. But honestly, what people think about you is none of your concern. It doesn't define who you are and you sure as hell don't need to answer to anyone. Everyone is learning who they are along the way so just do you and be kind to yourself and others.

You're young, naive and easily influenced as a teenager so you're bound to make mistakes...a lot of them. God knows I made my fair share and I'll forever be ashamed of most of them. The trick is to learn from them so as you get older, you know what to steer clear from and how to treat people the way you want to be treated. It's not an excuse for bad behavior, but don't beat yourself up too much, you're only human.

I wish I'd done more of this. I was so wrapped up in my boy drama as a teenager that I didn't take chances and do things I wouldn't be able to do so easily as an adult. I spent most of my time drinking myself to tears and driving my best friends crazy with my petty issues that ultimately meant nothing and took up what should have been the best years of my life. If I could go back, I definitely would have focused more on just having fun and not taking everything so seriously.

Life isn't easy, whether you're a teenager or an adult - but one things for sure, you live and you learn and you find ways to better yourself along the way. With that being said, what advice would you give to your teenage self? 


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  1. I love reading posts like this and it's so true. I had quite a tough time through high school, but I wish I had spent more time with the people that did care and less time stressing or being upset by those who didn't matter!

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    1. I wholeheartedly agree! It's crazy to realize how much power we gave certain people over our lives back in the day that don't even acknowledge your existence anymore. x

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  2. This is such a relatable post Jess! 💖 I spent a lot of my teenage years drinking, making mistakes and feeling bad. I’ve now come to realise that everything I went through shaped me into the person I am today so it was all meant to be. This is such great advice, especially take chances and have fun as we are only young once 😍. Fab post lovely 💖 xx

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  3. I definitely agree with worrying less about the little things! In the beginning of my teens I used to worry about so many little things but I think as you get older and gain more confidence you just stop caring haha. Great post :) xx

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  4. Oh the truth! As someone nearing 35 I wished someone would have told me these things. I now have to have similar conversations with my own teen. I love all the suggestions and how real it is. Thanks for sharing!

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  5. These are my favorite posts to read! I agree with all of these and my one addition would be "Calm down, its not that serious!" because when you are a teenager, everything feels like the end of the world.

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  6. These were some amazing tips! I have enter my young adulthood and still feel like I could use these tips to help my everyday live/well being! The take chances and have fun really stuck with me and is a motto I hope to have as long as I can!

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